A metaphor to share
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| Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:11am |
At my counselling session today, I was talking about feeling a little guilty about getting the babysitter so I can go out on a date. She pointed out that lots of women have trouble taking time for themselves without feeling guilty - not just for dates but for anything that centers on themselves.
She told me to remember what they tell you on airplanes about the oxygen masks. If the masks should fall, you put your own on first and then help those around you, like your children. My counselor pointed out that if you don't care for yourself, you can't be there in the whole sense, for your children. She said when I feel guilty I should remember that taking time for myself and having a full and happy life is like putting on that mask first. It isn't at the expense of my children, it helps me be a better mom.
It was such a nice analogy, I thought I would share it.

AMEN!
When I divorced, it was abundnatly clear to me (when I decided to divorce) that my not being happy.... was harming my children.... because I was not emotionally able to be the mother that I wanted to be and that they deserved.
A momma's gotta refire, too!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~