money, anger and XH............
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| Thu, 03-17-2005 - 9:00am |
I am so aggravated.
XH hasn't paid child support in MONTHS. He wasn't working, he got fired from the highest paying job he has EVER had for lying to his boss and not working agreed hours ( but still getting paid for them )
He is supposed to take the kids last week Friday. He calls me out of nowhere ( I have his email address and IM name blocked ) says, I would like to start paying child support again, then he said he got a job. He says he will be able to pay 712.00 of what he owes, he will bring a check with him when he picks up the kids. He brings the check.. I am relieved.... because my Boyfriend, who has been supporting me while I was pregnant and while XH wasn't paying child support, left his job to begin a new one that paid A LOT more and was more his field only to be fired 4 days into the new job. So now I have no income at all. I mean we could all find jobs, but nothing will solve the problems RIGHT NOW. So..... I am excited that I am getting this check from XH. 712, will go a long way with the things that didn't get paid yet this month and groceries until someone ( me or SO ) find a job.
Then last night XH calls.... he gives me this big BS story about how the check won't be good. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. He said he would bring another check for MUCH less ( 400.00 less ) this morning at 7am. I take my son out to the bus at 8:20, there was no check. I KNEW IT.
SO here is the thing..... he bought a van on Monday. Why isn't there enough to pay child support. The jerk owes me A LOT of money and for once I actually NEED it. He knows SO isn't working and we are both looking for jobs, but his van and himself is number one, as usual.
He has no idea how much I go without so the kids can have what they need. He has no idea how much it costs to raise 2 children. He hasn't seen responsibility in a LOOOOOONg time.
So around 8:45am I am back in the house and just happened to hear his car. He bought a piece of crap probe for WAY too much money last year with the tax return money that he got because of the kids I TAKE CARE OF everyday.... i got nothing.... another story..... anyway, I checked the mailbox and there was a note and a check. "Im so sorry about the mixup" blah blah blah..... Now he is Mr niceguy. So I say yeah ok and I move on. Then he calls me!!! He is SO NICE to me it's sickening. He was like I'm really sorry, did you get my message last night and did you get the check this morning? He was also joking with me about not remembering his phone number and he just kept saying how sorry he was he couldn't pay all of the money. He's like " I know you were counting on that money"... DUH! Then he was like " if anything comes up give me a buzz later" " thanks for understanding".......
I guess I should be happy I got any money at all. I'm just tired of him being mr niceguy when he does something wrong and I don't react to it. PRAY this check is good.
oy.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Angelena


Oh gheez... I supposed you "could" be a jerk and try to cash the bigger check, but that would only drain his account with bank fees of money that you won't get later.
It's frustrating..... about 6 months ago I had to send my EX a certified letter to tell him to get CS caught up, or I would turn it over to my attorney.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I am so sorry you are having so much trouble with X.
R~
Yeah, i ALREADY have a guilt trip & he's not even paying yet! lol
I make $30/hr. I work 28 hours a week & make 40K. BUT ... i worked very hard for my degree AND i am still paying 11K in school loans. HE lived off my salary really well for many years - he made b/w 9K & 13K most years of our marriage. Then one year 21K & one year 29K. But usually he worked part time or was out of work - b/c he had NO gumption to get up & GET work.
So now he had a full time job *gasp*!!! & he makes $12/hr. His earning capacity will never be anywhere near mine. My atty says based on our salaries, i should get awarded about $330 a