Morality

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Registered: 04-14-2005
Morality
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:53pm
I've been dating a guy for four years. I've been divorced for the same amount of time. In any of your opinions, Do you think it's wrong to let him stay all night, keep in mind he lives 73 miles away...this our only together time. But I'm torn-and I don't want it to hurt my son, if he finds out he spent the night in my bed? What do ya think?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: iredhead40
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 1:47am
Do you mean when your ds is home or when he's gone on visitation? I don't see a problem in any case of doing so when your ds is not home. The issue of whether you should have a LTR stay overnight when your ds is home is really up to you and what your morals and values are. Since you've been dating for four years, I assume that your LTR knows your ds well and vice versa. That would play into it, too. I know, it's really no advice that I'm giving you, but I can not tell someone what their morals and values should be.





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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: iredhead40
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 9:29am

I have different view since I am Swede and this could in your

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Registered: 11-03-2006
In reply to: iredhead40
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 4:05pm
I never let my fiance spend the night when my children are with me. I don't think my sex life is anything that my children should have to deal with. In your case, since your BF lives far away, have him sleep in the guest room or on the couch. I think it's a matter of respect for yourself and your children.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: iredhead40
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 2:12am
My dh lived long distance. At first when he came, he stayed in a nearby hotel. Gradually, he moved to the couch at our house. Then, when the kids decided to have a sleep over, he moved into my room "on an air matteress. >eye roll< LOL It wasn't until we moved in together prior to our wedding that he began sleeping with me. This whole process happened over 6+ months. When we took the kids to show them the house we were moving into, we presented our bedroom and Mom and D's bedroom. It was no problem.





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