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MOVED AWAY ADVISE
| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 3:55pm |
Hi
recently married again for the 2nd time.. want to move to another state to be with my new hubby. Fighting with the EX to bring our 2 teenage daughters with me. Better schools and better way of life. New hubby is in the airlines businesss so my daghters would have FREE flight privledges. EX & his girl friend are talking to the girls and telling them " that they will have no friends" as well as very nasty things about me.
Even offering to give them money for a brand new wardrobe to stay here..
Any advise would be apprectiated.. I feel like I am climbing a sand hill
Cee

Usually the rule is that if both parents agree to the move, all is fine. If they don't agree, then the parent that wants to move is free to move but leave the children behind. If you want the right to move, you may have to fight for that in court, and that can take years and will easily cost tens of thousands of dollars. Because your children are older, they will be given a say (not total say, but a voice in court) on what they want. The best solution is some kind of compromise and usually the way to get that is through lots of communication and negotiation with your ex.
I don't condone your ex talking bad about you, but usually a parent fighting to keep their children in the state happens because that parent cares about the relationship they have with the children and they don't want to go months at a time without being able to see their child. Moving away often causes a deterioration in the parent-child relationship, and even if that parent isn't the most ideal parent in the world most courts do seek to preserve an existing relationship with that parent.
Well. My EX will not be cut off from the kids..especially with emails and cell phones- he would actually get more time physical per month.. 3 weekends were offered and I offered to fly him out to see the kids once every 2 months. he would also get ALL holidays and summer vacation ( excluding 2 weeks so I can have a vacation with them)
I know he has his rights but when the girls are there at his house.. they don't even like it
I know in my heart the move would be good for the kids. He is just bitter bacuse I left him 4 years ago.. he is still hurt and trying to hurt me.
enough rambling.. wish me luck in the 31st
Cee