MOVING DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 02-23-2006
MOVING DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 7:28am

Hi all!!

I begin the task of moving tonight. The moving truck actually comes tomorrow morning. While i am so excited to finally be moving forward, i am also scared. I know i can do it, it will be hard, but it has to be better than stbx quitting numerous job after job and contributing NOTHING and sitting on the couch for weeks at a time staring blankly at the TV.

I pray that he finds the inner strength necessary to stop drinking and hold a job. I pray that my children are not too damaged for life living with an alcoholic for so long, and I pray for the knowledge and will power to persevere through this most challenging situation.

Next stop, skippy's office. (my name for my attorney, he looks like a 10 year old, but is a shark.) Serve STBX again, ask for alimony and child support and maybe he'll get off his a$$ and contribute to the welfare of his children. (doubtful, so i guess he can sit his butt in jail)

So, I am signing off for a while, until i can get situated, and get my internet connection hooked up. Wow, I can't believe i actually found the backbone to move forward. I AM VERY PROUD OF MYSELF TODAY!!

xo
christine

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Registered: 01-01-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:10am

Good luck with everything. Yes, it will be tough--I've been there. The one thing you must remember is you are doing it for the sake of your famly. You will get through it. Stay strong and keep us posted when you can.

Becka

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 10:15am
You should be proud of yourself!! I will be moving by 2/15 or sooner. I feel a bit teary hearing about your moving day which is what I feel as I am packing my stuff. Good luck-
Brenda
Brenda
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Registered: 11-28-2006
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:27pm

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!

Looking forward to hearing from you in your new home. Hope your children will feel safe and loved and peaceful with you in a new place.

M

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 1:18pm

Hi All

I actually did it. I packed my stuff and moved. I am very proud of myself. I have been sleeping, I have been happy and more productive in the past three days than I have been in 4.5 years. I now control my own destiny and no longer feel paralyzed.

For those of you thinking about leaving, let me tell you: THIS WAS NOT AN EASY DECISION! I started thinking about it Novemeber 2005. I found an attorney, a therapist, i discussed it with my priest, my boss, my family, my friends, my doctor, my coworkers, people who i didn't even know. I found a place to live, looked at the calander and picked a date: january 20th, 2007. Last Thursday night I had a panic attack. I wasn't sure I could do it. Then Saturday came, the moving truck pulled up, I loaded my stuff and left. I cried myself to sleep Saturday night. But then Sunday morning rolled around. I was sitting in my kitchen drinking coffee, when a doe walked down along the tree line. Later that day, it began to snow and it snowed all day into the night. It was so peaceful, so quiet. There wasn't a drunk on my couch staring blankly at the tv. I realized that I felt happy for the first time in a very, very long time.

If you are thinking about leaving, filing for divorce, whatever, take some time to reflect, look deep inside and ask yourself, "what will make you happy?" This may not be the right choice for everyone, but for me, my only regret is that I waited so long.

Christine

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 6:04pm

Christine.... never regret waiting so long!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 6:47pm
Good for you! It's hard at first, but you will adjust as time goes by. I love that I don't have to walk on eggshells in my own home anymore. You might be like me in that you don't even care to have the tv on. My STBX watched a lot of tv, and now I like it quiet and only watch if there's something worthwhile on instead of staring at it wasting and rotting away. Like you, I had a tremendous support system to help me do what was necessary for my soul. It will be a new year of positive changes for you. Bel