Moving day for STBX is here!

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Moving day for STBX is here!
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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 2:07pm

This has been the longest month of my life and I am just shocked at how I am feeling. It thought I would share with all of you - some of you will be in this position soon and others have long past it. If you have any suggestions or comments, I welcome them.

STBX has taken a job out of state because I told him the marriage is over and I want to end it. He has been verbally and emotionally abusive throughout our marriage. Our child has witnessed this behavior and I have decided I am not going to take it anymore.

Well here we are the week before he moves and I am a wreck. I am not going to really miss him and I don't love him anymore but I think it is the huge change in my life to come is scaring me a little??? Was anyone else feeling this way when their STBX was moving? I am just looking forward to next week and the peace I will have.

Have a great weekend! I will keep you updated.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-01-2007 - 10:53am

I think the emotions you are feeling are completely normal... even when we want this, even when we are the ones who initiated it, even when its working out just like we planned, it is still a tough transition when it actually happens...

In my case, my xh stretched his moving out over several weeks, making it the ultimate heck for me--I'd come home from work, not sure what would be gone and what would remain... if he had just done it at one time (or if I had just made him do it all that way) it would have been much easier...

By now, I'm sure you're feeling more at peace... let us know how you're doing...

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 10:46pm

Oh sure!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 11:18pm

My ex and I lived in the same house, knowing divorce was imminent, for a year and a half. Although I got to where I couldn't stand the sight of him, I lost it when he left. Mostly because of fear. I was terrified that I wouldn't be okay alone.

But, you know what? Give it a very short amount of time and you will quickly see the relief and the weight that will be lifted far outweighs the worry and insecurity.

You're going to be fine. :-)