Moving out day
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Moving out day
| Sat, 02-04-2006 - 4:21pm |
How in the world does one get through this devastating day. I have been married for 37 years, and he moved out today. I came home alone to empty closet and dresser. He said in Nov. he wanted a divorce, but then came back after a week to retry, promising not to leave again. Not so fast....yesterday, he said he wanted out of the marriage, and was moving out today. I am a wreck, feeling worse now than in Nov. I feel I have failed in the marriage twice, instead of once. He makes tons of money, and will have much to spend on grandchildren, etc. and I resent being pushed out of the family circle. I have always worked until this move to TX, and now am almost 60 years old, with rusty skills. I am so sad....any advice? I will probably move back to MD in a couple of months, as both daughters and 3 grandbabies and my sister are there. But today I am just unbelievably sad. I believe moving to TX 4 years ago was a mistake.....

Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Sweetheart - YOU are not "pushed" out of the family ... HE walked out!
I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this... it surely isn't easy anytime it happens... I would recommend taking it just one day at a time... one hour at a time if a day seems like too much to handle... five minutes at a time if one hour seems like too much as most of us can handle anything for five minutes...
Don't look at it as being pushed out of the family... you are as much a part of that family as he is... except he's chosen to walk... like the others have said, they don't love you because of money or material things... your family loves you for you... let them do that...
I think that moving back to MD sounds like a good option for you as well. Sounds like you have a lot of family there that could help you get back on your feet... emotionally and potentially financially. And yes, in hindsight, the move to TX may appear to be a mistake, but I doubt you could have seen that a couple of years ago... we do what we feel is right for our families at the time we are pressed to make a decision...
You may not want to hear this right now... but you might want to go ahead and speak with an attorney to determine exactly what your rights are... one of the scariest things about what you are going through is all of the unknowns... but by learning your rights, you will feel a little better in some small way...
I hope that you'll come back soon and keep us posted with how you're doing....
*hugs*
Julie