Mrs. Guilty

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Mrs. Guilty
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Tue, 07-25-2006 - 6:56pm
I think Im in the right forum here...after all of the postings I have read, I realize what really strong women are about. I am looking for a way out of my marraige. I have been having an affair for the last year. Married 18 yrs with 4 cildren. Most of these years have been brutally hard emotionally financially, and otherwise. My husband drank from sun-up to the time he passed out for 9 of these years while I quietly sat by and did my co-dependant thing..we have gone through so much. He is now working at a high paying job, and has been for many years and treats me much better, nearly suffocating me with attention. I do not love this guy any longer, but again, stay because of the children. I'm am so unhappy, and he keeps me in place with either guilt or pretending that everything is fine, and the fact that we are married, so, thats that. I can barely get through my workday, being so unhappy, if anyone has any thoughts or advise, please be brutally honest...Thanks

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Registered: 07-18-2006
In reply to: what2do13
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 2:16pm
I hope you find your happiness, we all deserve it! People are human, sometimes we screw up.... I Just had a close relative die at the age of 46 who stayed in an horrible marriage to an acolholic, she was having an affair too. She stayed because she was afraid of what our family would think, and because of her son (he is a teenager, but still a child). she was in a car accident a month ago. I wish she could of forgiven herself for her infildelity and moved on with her life before she died. I have been on the other side of the coin (husband cheated).. does not make him a complete devil, he screwed up, I screwed up, I did not cheat, but was not a very good wife... go live your life, I would leave your marriage though, sounds like you are done.

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