My crazy life..advice please.
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| Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:54am |
I'm reaching out because I need some advice. My situation is unique..I'm divorced with two kids. My exH and I share our 4,000 sq ft home. When we bought it, it was a multifamily, we opened up a doorway between the two homes to make it one a few years ago. When we spilt, he said that he would renovate his side of the home, and close up the door. (his side needs cosmetic renovations, electrical updates. He has a kitchen, bath etc.)
That was 6 months ago. He has done NOTHING to his side of the house. Up until last month, when he went on a extended vacation for three weeks, he's been on my side, eating my food, watching my cable. The kids rooms on his side aren't even set up. We have shared custoday, one week on/one week off. Needless to say, its as if I have the kids 24/7. (not that I really mind).
Now, I have my girlfriend living with me. While he was gone, we boarded up the doorway. My, wasn't he surprised when he came home.
My dilemma is this: how on earth do I live with myself MAKING the kids stay on his side of the home for their week with him, when there is NOTHING there for them to make them comfortable? Also, I've been paying the mortgage and shared utilities, and he's giving me a very difficult time about giving me the money. Want's proof etc, why can't he just call up the utilities and find out for himself??
Thanks for any valid responses.
S

It sounds like you haven't done anything formally yet? If not I would get the ball rolling and have completion dates put in court documents, that is what I had to do.
If it were me I would bill him for his half and give him copies of the utility bill, it seems resonable to me to give a copy of the bill to him (I personally would want that if I were paying half to someone). If it was multifamily, can you switch the utilities back to 2 seperate bills?
As for keeping your kids over there, that is a tough one. Are your kids old enough to communicate with him what their needs are? It may make more of an impact coming from them versus from you.
Good luck!!
Wow!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~