My divorce is final

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Registered: 11-05-2004
My divorce is final
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Sun, 03-25-2007 - 10:25pm
I haven't posted here for awhile, but I use to. My divorce was finalized about a week and a half ago. I got a lot out of the divorce being a SAHM to 2 very young children and Im very relieved the divorce process is over. Im not relieved my marriage is over b/c I never wanted this, but I had no choice but to go along. But Im feeling great, starting college in the Fall and Im getting back on my feet, looking forward to bettering myself and receiving a college degree :)

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Registered: 10-30-2003
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 12:00am
Good for you for making a fresh start. I'm very glad to hear that your years of being at home with the kids were valued and rewarded. Like you, I was a SAHM (I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 4 1/2 year old). I'm back in school and getting on with life. It feels very good to have goals to look forward to achieving.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 12:56am

Yeah, it can be kind of bittersweet.


I'm glad that it sounds like you're "happy" with the settlement and the new phase of your life.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 8:29am

Kate,

Wondering what state you live in. I am a sahm mom (for 6 1/2 years now) of a kindergartener and pre-schooler and I am finding no one supportive of my status (in terms on money or anything else).

I doubt I will get much money, certainly not enough to live on. The county guidelines are pretty minimal financially.

Lots of pressure to return to work and put my children in daycare. I will go back eventually, when I find the right job and the children are ready--divorce is going to really hurt them in every way.

So just curious about how you did so well and where you live that you got what you needed.

M

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Registered: 11-05-2004
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 11:09am

Actually, the judge was only going to give me 12 months spousal support, not veyr much $$, and child support. I really wanted to stay

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Mon, 03-26-2007 - 4:09pm

Good for you landing on your feet and for your X for seeing the light regarding your children. Great example!

M