My divorce is final...

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Registered: 01-29-2005
My divorce is final...
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 1:21pm

I found out this morning that my divorce is final. My attorney has slacked and didn't notify me that it's been final since November 8th, but I called the courthouse to check the status and then went down myself to look at the documents and make sure what they had said was accurate. There it was in black and white.

It first made me sad. I don't miss my ex at all, but it's just the finality of the loss of our family. Ya know? I was sad for about an hour and now I feel better. I have made an appointment at a spa this afternoon and am gonna go get prettied up. That will definitely make me feel better. Right now I'm headed off to school to meet with a counselor about my schedule for the next few semesters. I want to do something today that is a step in the right direction for my new life, and I thought that would be a good one.

Thanks for the support you have all given me over this last year. This board has been a big help to me during what has been the hardest time of my life.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 2:02pm
Hugs and cheers to moving on in life...with passion and purpose. You have made major, positive changes and I know you will continue to do so.
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Registered: 08-17-2001
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 2:28pm

Congratulations! Must be a relief to have that chapter of your life behind you.....

Glad I'm not the only one who's idiot lawyer didn't tell them the divorce was final.... my daughter informed me 3 weeks after the fact.

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 4:19pm
Thanks, Christine, this certainly has been a year for change. I know I have some things to still resolve within myself, but I feel like I've made progress and am trying to continue moving in the right direction.
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Registered: 01-29-2005
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 4:22pm

Thanks! It is a relief for sure.

Sounds like three weeks is the going rate with being informed late. I've decided to not call my lawyer. I'm going to wait to see if they ever bother to call me, and when they do I'll just say "Yes, I know. I went and got the info myself "x" weeks ago."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 10:10pm

Gwen,

Although I'm sorry that you weren't notified sooner, I am glad to hear that this phase of limbo is over for you. I completely understand the sadness that you felt--it is pretty common actually to feel that, regardless of if you were at the point where you wanted the divorce or were against it. I'm glad that you took the time today to do some things for you and the next phase of your life--that's a very good step. I spent my divorce day with my college roommate and her family... it was actually a wonderful afternoon and I hope that you enjoyed your day as well...

Sending hugs to you!

Julie

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 5:06am
Congratulations - it is a long path to get there, and now a page is turned. We are always ambivalent in front of big changes, and this one is definiely one - but it is all for the best. Now you can start again, all new. When a door closes, a new one opens up.
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Registered: 01-29-2005
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:41am
Thanks, Julie, it was a good day, but still felt weird. It's been emotionally over for a very long time, and we've both moved on to new people, but it's still strange that it's really truly done.
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Registered: 01-29-2005
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:45am
I agree. Regardless of the lingering sadness and anxiety of trying to adjust to how things are now, I am feeling very hopeful about my and my children's future. Things are going to be okay.