My divorce was final today
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My divorce was final today
| Thu, 07-13-2006 - 11:29pm |
Hello all --
I haven't posted on here in a long time. My divorce was final this afternoon. I have waited for this day for 9 long months, so explain to me why I am so sad. Everything in the divorce worked out pretty well for me. The ex is being really ugly and has been for quite awhile. This is the first time I've ever lived alone in my life and I guess I'm just flipping out as a new chapter for me begins.
Thanks for listening to me ramble.

It's quite normal to feel sad... exhausted.... lots of things.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thanks so much for your response. I should have been in here when I've been climbing the walls, but honestly didn't think I could take it. I'll be in here with you guys now though, and hopefully can help someone else.
I'm enrolled in Pre-Law at school. I worked and put the ex through school, and was a stay at home mom. Now, I get to go to college and start over. It's exciting yet quite daunting.
I hope I can help some of you ladies.
Thanks again.
Cheri, am a guy here; hope that's ok. I am at the beginning, not the end. Just filed and moved out about a week ago. Have wanted to and needed to a long time but waited.
I think maybe I understand a little of what you are feeling. I am happy I finally declared my independence from a toxic relationship, but even so I feel the burden of a failed relationship, of having "quit on it", even though I stayed on too long to my own hurt. I am vacillating betweeen lightness and joy and loneliness and depression.
Maybe the weight of it has just caught up with you on the day it became final. That doesnt' mean you didnt do the right thing. Just the sadness that comes when things dont turn out like the end of a Disney movie.....
I suspect it will get better. Anniversaries and birthdays and days that mark life's passings often bring conflicting emotions. Wishing you all the best.
Rediscovering
Even when you want the divorce, the actual finalization of it can be quite traumatic (emotionally, at least)... for me, it was quite empowering, but my xh asked me for a hug, because he was so depressed about it (and he is the one who left and wanted the divorce in the first place)... to that I told him he could go hug his girlfriend because he wasn't hugging me...
There will still be good days and bad... treasure the good moments and use them to help you find strength through the rougher times...
*hugs*
Julie