My ex is a snake!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
My ex is a snake!
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 3:40pm

So, next Saturday, Sept 30th is my husband’s birthday-the big FIVE-O. I have been wracking my brain for weeks trying to come up with an awesome gift. We recently enlarged our bedroom. Although it is now longer, it is not any wider-only 10 feet. It is kind of hard to envision, but it is basically in 5 sections-the room with our bed (9 X 10), an area with a closet, built in bookcases and my husband’s dressers (8.5 X 10 in one spot with steps down to another area 7 X10), an study which has our computers ( 8 X 8), a walk-in closet (8 X 8) and a bathroom (7 X 8). After we moved our bed in the new section we discovered our old 25 inch TV would not fit the way we thought it would.

Anyway, I decided to buy my husband a flat-panel TV to mount on the wall. I sat down with the ads from the Sunday paper looking for a good buy. As I was doing this my son (12) came into the room. He saw a TV in one of the ads and said “that is just like the one Daddy bought”. Then he realized what he said and says “oops, I wasn’t supposed to tell you”. I asked him why and he says “Daddy says it is none of your business what he has in his house.”

Actually, I could give a rat’s you-know-what about what he has and I have never questioned the kids about his house (other than to ask if they sleep in separate rooms). (Yet he knows everything that goes on in our house.) The whole conversation made me think he is hiding money from me. A while back I tried to get a wage assignment, on the advice of my lawyer. He took me to court on another matter (which he lost BIG TIME) and she stated I should try to get a standard wage assignment in place. I told him and he was furious. He stated he didn’t want his work involved. Supposedly ADP could not deposit money from his paycheck into my account for child support. (Hello, I am an accountant, I think I know better.) This went on for a few weeks, and then all of a sudden he tells me he gave his employer a copy of divorce decree and they could do what I wanted. Still nothing from the court telling his employer how much of his check was to come to me. Who knows what he really told his employer.

He has been crying poverty for months. Telling me he can’t afford to buy things for the kids (our daughter (16) mostly-he bought a ton of football equipment for our son). Refusing to reimburse me for expenses he is obligated to pay. I know his car loan is paid off because I know when we bought it. I know he has a new cell phone and now a new TV (probably plasma). He never could save money. I am sure he blew his way through the money I gave him for the equity on the house. Money he promised me, while we were drawing up our divorce papers, he would divide equally and put in trust for our children. (Now he claims he never said that.) If this weren’t true he would be living in either a condo or a house instead of spending $1800 on rent for an apartment (I know this from his Financial Affidavit he had to submit when he took me to court.)

Sorry this got so long. I just don't trust him!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2005
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 4:05pm
This man does not have your best interests at heart. He is not your friend. Hopefully you can get your money back for the TV.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 2:52pm
He does sound like a total reptile!.... what a jerk.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~