My ex thinks it's all about HIM

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Registered: 10-30-2004
My ex thinks it's all about HIM
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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 12:00am

OK, he won't pay his half of the medical/dental bills for the kids, but he has money to go out and buy a new TV!! I could kill him. Also we have to switch a weekend next month because I have to work (it's in our divorce agreement that he would do this if needed) and he hasn't emailed me back as to which weekend that we can switch. Grrrrrrr.

Also he wants to go to the coast to visit with his new GF and my 12 year old doesn't want to go, soooooo he's coming here and it's that jack ass's weekend. Of course I'm going to have Jake come home, frankly I don't want my kids around that judgemental b i t c h. Both my 12 and 13 year olds spent Friday night at friend's houses like they do every weekend they are with him and our oldest will be spending the day at his mother's tomorrow, oh how convient.

I'm so sick and tired of him boo-hooing about how he's doing it all and then when he does have them they aren't even there.

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Registered: 09-04-2005
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 11:46pm

Dude, you are totally preaching to the choir! This all sounds so familiar! You must have been so, er, angry...

Here's my Mr. Wonderful's latest: on Friday nite he had the girls because that would've been his night (we'd agreed that he'd have them on Friday nites and I'd have them on Saturday nites). Since the kids were taken care of, I used the time to go to a local Red Cross shelter to volunteer with victims of the hurricane.

You know what he told the neighbors the next day (as he was fixing his car in my driveway)? That he'd HAD to take the girls Friday nite because I was going to some big party. Ugh!?!?!?!?

So this morning, the neighbor walks over, kind of smirking, and asks how my big party went. I'm like, what party? He's like, you know, the party you went to that STBX had to take care of the girls for. I'm like, ohmgosh, you're KIDDING me, he said that? Well, my "big party" was at the church, helping victims of the hurricane. The guitar was for singing to the children at the shelter.

The neighbor's jaw just dropped, and he just stood there and shook his head like he couldn't believe what a jerk my STBX was for making it sound like I was out partying when I was at a church working for the newly homeless...geez, what a creep!

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 3:09pm

Even if you went to a party it's none of his damn business!!!!! I'm planning a big bash at my house one of these weekends I don't have the kids and he doesn't have a damn thing to say about it. What we do when it's THEIR weekend is none of their business. They are jealous.

My ex has a lot to say about what I do when I have the kids, but he's dictating his orders from his GF's house 45 minutes away. S c r e w him. He gets pissy because the joint custody gets in the way of his love life. I guess he should have picked bootie closer to home.

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 7:19pm
Oh my god! The SCHOOL BUS! Horrors!! None of US have ever been subjected to anything so awful as a SCHOOL BUS! What kind of mother are you??? (KIDDING). Seriously, though, come on. In this day of budgets and working parents, a school bus is not an issue to get worked up over! You have made your children the focus of your life, they are welcome with you at any time (regardless of whether it is your weekend or his)... can he say the same? No way. From your posts, I can't believe he even feels entitled to give an opinion on this issue! Stay strong - you are dealing with a wild one there.
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:45pm

You mean its NOT all about THEM?

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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 2:25pm

Well I've been making my son take the bus and now that it's been a week or so and he hasn't died from it the ex has backed off the subject.

Of course NOW I find out that the jerk once again didn't pay the kids' medical bills, my half was paid off months ago. One of them is an emergency room visit that I took my daughter to (on his weekend)and that bill has gone into collections. I swear I could strangle him.

This is his weekend to have the kids and of course he's hitting me up to take them Friday night so he can spend the night down at his girlfriend's house. I told him I would continue taking them on Friday nights, but if he decides to continue giving me crap about my work schedule that I am only going to request the Friday nights off that I have the kids so on his weekends he won't be able to spend Friday nights at her house.

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