my ex's girlie posters

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Registered: 12-05-2006
my ex's girlie posters
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 2:59am

Here is our story:

My ex-husband and I have been trying to be peaceful, but sometimes it's just hard. We have a four-year-old son that I have physical custody of. The ex is allowed visitation every other weekend. Well in order to be amicable, I have really had to bite my tongue about some things, but I am wondering about the wisdom of doing this. My ex is 30 years old; and the man has 2 girlie pictures on the wall in his living room. Not nude, but 1/2 naked. I hate this and never tolerated this when we were married. Urggghh.

It's like he is daring me to say something. But I think it is not appropriate for my son to see, and I just can't figure out how to talk about this without being confrontational. Every time I start to bring it up, my brain goes dead. (I just can't believe I actually married this person. What was I thinking?!? Is usually what I start thinking after my brain starts functioning again.)

Please I could really use some helpful advice! I am just blank about the immaturity displayed here. How do you reason with a person who acts like a teenager?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 8:45am
Your best response is no response. if you say anything it's going to give him the thought that you're jealous and he doesn't need that kind of amunition. Just ignore, ignore, ignore!! My ex purposely does things to push my buttons (like sending emails) and I have learned to delete and not respond and it's amazing how much easier my life has become.