My husband has an affairs with two women
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| Mon, 08-15-2005 - 11:19pm |
Hello, I am Debby...I live in Hong kong..now I have a big problems, please help me.
My husband went to the internet and find a GF..She is a married woman and live in China, after I discover this matter, he didn't hide any more, he chated with her every nights 3 hours and phoned her 2 hours. When he chated with her in the messenger, I kneels down and beg for his love..and I cried, asked him stop to hurt me.. But it made him more repugnant me...even he kocked the room door.
And our relationship went down...since I phoned this woman..and called her " Bitch". And I shouted to this woman, she compiant to him, and he kick me out, now I live alone.
We have a daugther almost 4 years old. we married 5 years..In my marriage, he always say he has very hard times with me for 4 years.. and he always say he is very faintful man.
Until my maid show him how to search people form the internet..I find he put his profile in 20, Apr, 2005...and 18, Apr, 2005 is our 5 years marriage anniversary commemoration, we just have our cake...I knew he know her in 9, May..and 16, May, he already asked her travelling to Euro with him..This is I checked his e-mail.
The end of May..I discover his affair, and I try to save the marriage in many ways..But end of June, he went to China to visit this married woman with my baby..when he came back, he claimed she just a friend..and I asked my baby..my baby told me Papa slelp with Lisa..and they shower together..I immediacte crying..
He ask me to separate, he said he is one man one woman only..he fall in love with her...so he wants I can agree to separate..I get so anger and I phoned this woman and shout to her, my husband kick me out..now I live alone..
But when I visited my baby on last Sunday, I asked her did she sleep alone? My baby told me she slept with with Papa and Lilis (our maid) ...and I asked her more detail...she mention how my husband take out Lilis undewear...and kiss her ass......I don't think my baby will tell a lie like that...
And last night I see my baby again, I saw there is 3 guilt on my bed..one is belongs to Lilis.
Now it is not only the married woman ..and also our maid to be his lover.. I really get hurt..Is it a time to give up?
In before, I think if only this married woman in China..they won't be longer..because if they want to stay together, it needs to take 5 years...
But now he has our maid..they sleep together every night...it is very hard for me to get him back
Now he has his freedom to made sex with different woman..I don't think he will be that easy to give up his freedom..and he is hungry to search women?? Is it because we married so long, and let him lost interest on me?
He said he doesn't love me any more..I agree to change myself but he refuse to give me any chance..BUT I ask him when he will proceed the divorce, he doesn't want to talk.
Should I still give hope for this marriage??? Do I do something can help??
Your know...I don't let any friend and my family know this matter..because I still keep hope for this relationship..
Thank you very much

I agree with this 100%.
You have to look out for YOU and your baby.
Hugs to you and good luck with everything,
Angelena
Hi Debby..... I did get your e mail a couple of days ago, and I apologize for not responding to you sooner.
I agree with some of the support that you've already gotten here... and that's why I'm so glad that you did decide to post!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I saw my baby last night, everything seems to be fine...
But just hurts..I don't ask my baby about this matter any more. I just play with her. Give her my love.
My baby has a room, she slept with our maid while she was 2 years old, and I told with one of my GF, she guess it is because my baby used to sleep with somebody, but they can't wait until her sleep..
Should I made a tape record all my baby's said...I want to fight to a court...and maybe record to a police..I think it can't accept in a law...How they have sex in front of a little kid.
Thank you so much all your advises and support.