My husband won't return my son to me

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-06-2004
My husband won't return my son to me
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Wed, 08-31-2011 - 5:47pm

Hi,

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 09-01-2011 - 1:56pm

Cat,

You've done the correct thing by filing for divorce and temporary custody. Let your attorney do the talking and be prepared to let the court system process your filing. It will take longer than you like but you've got the right person doing it for you - an attorney.

As for you the living conditions your son is living in that can work to your advantage. First thing

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 09-01-2011 - 1:58pm
P.S. If CPS is called regarding your STBX's and his parents homes, they will document what they find. That's to your advantage in a custody arrangement.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-06-2004
Fri, 09-02-2011 - 11:32pm

Hi thanks for answering. I told my lawyer about the house and took pictures while I was there (without anyone knowing...I did it quickly) and sent them to my lawyer. I did not know the house was in that condition when my husband picked up my son in June (remember my husband lives 3 hours away). I didn't find out the house was in that condition until I tried to get my son last week. The last time I was there (a year and a half ago) it was nothing like it looks now... dirty but not so that you didn't even have a place to sit. Anyhow, my lawyer is working on the temporary custody order and getting it through the court. To be honest, I rather have it on record that my husband was keeping my son from coming back to me intentionally (like a punishment on me) and I really don't think the court will think to highly on that! I am a bit calmer now, but school starts on Tuesday and I am just sitting here alone in my house worrying that he will miss his first days of school.... plus I miss him terribly!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 10:49am

Hi Cat,

I hope you were able to get your son back by now?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2011
Tue, 09-13-2011 - 2:34am

Hi Cat, Very Sorry to Hear about your situation:

If your state allows it - Immediately Demand an Extensive Evaluation "Psych Evaluation" of your whole family!:

Psych Evaluation - They are supposed to personally go to each home, meet parents, children, teachers, neighbors and a few others to determine what will be in the best interest of the children.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2011
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 5:46pm

What state do you live in? Is your husband out of state? Child custody rulings vary widely, even from county to county.

It is good that you are making sure that you have documentation to back up your claims in court. That is incredibly important.

I wish you well. Do everything that you can do for your son's good health and best interests.