my last attempt...maybe

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Registered: 03-29-2003
my last attempt...maybe
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Sun, 10-07-2007 - 10:38pm

Hi again


A while back I posted a message titled "the hardest desicion" and received many messages of support and advice. I thank each and everyone of you who responded. I wish I had something new to tell you but I am as conflicted and sad as I was 2 weeks ago, but on the positive side, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. At least I

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2007
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 12:30am

I think he is trying to put the ball in your court. If you decide to end it, then he can say "if was your fault"


Let him make the decision, if he decides to go, ok, you did not make him, if he

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Registered: 05-12-2007
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 7:17am

I agree that he's trying to put the ball in your court... he CHOSE to have an affair (which to a lot of people is an end of a marriage), but now he has been having his cake and eating it too with you and OW... and now he claims to be confused and is trying to have you make the decision for him whether he stays and tries to work it out with you... or not...


Truth is that many marriages become strained and can be rebuilt to become even stronger than they once were, but for that to happen, both parties have to be committed to improving their relationship.

 


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Registered: 11-25-2003
Mon, 10-08-2007 - 12:38pm

Hi there marta_joe,


Your husband is an a-hole.