This is my life now?

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Registered: 11-06-2006
This is my life now?
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 11:31am

WTF- Ex just left for a flight to see OW for a week. She was just here in our old marital house for a week in april. He's living like a rock star flying her here, flying himself there. So this Monday I say, don't you owe me for CS for last week. Yea, I do. I don't have any checks but I will pay you. Wednesday I say do you have the check my mortgage is due the 15th? Stop hounding me for it, you'll get your $$. Today, I call him as he is driving to the airport. Oh SH**, I forgot. We get into a battle. Finally, he says he will give the $$ to the person driving him to the airport.

One week he tells me why didn't you remind me. The next week it's stop hounding me. He then tells me there is nothing in writing that says when he is suppose to pay me. He tells me I should call my lawyer and spend more $$ in court. I'm so sick of this. Please tell me it get better!

Brenda
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Registered: 09-16-2006
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 2:50pm
Contact family court and have the CS taken right out of his check every week nand direct deposited into your account....you and he will never have to discuss it again. If it is coming out of his paywycheck, he can't ever get away with not paying you...........I don't think you need an attorney to do this, but do what you are comfortable with...........
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 9:47pm

I told my EX right away (he asked me to remind him if he was behind on paying... I knew he just wanted to hear me ask for it).... that the only time he'd ever hear from my about his financial RESPONSIBILITY was from my attorney.... that he was old enough to keep up with what he was supposed to do.


Now, when he gets behind, I just send him a registered letter, "cc My Attorney" and advise him that if the matter isn't cleared up in XX days I will file a contempt charge in family court... and that if he has any questions that he should contact my attorney at 123-4456.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 7:47am

Good idea!

I did send an email to my attorney asking her to send a reminder letter explaining when CS & alimony was due. I think the letter will suffice at this time (I hope).

He gave a blank check to his brother at the airport cuz he didn't have time to fill it out and his brother signs his name to the check. He says I'll just cross out my name and forge my brothers name. I'm not touching that check with a 10' pole I say.

I get a call from ex (through son's cell) saying his mom is bringing me a bank check (doesn't include the alimony of course).

He had mommy doing everything when he was young, had wifey doing everything when he was married, and now mommy is bailing him out again. I'm going to let her have a piece today when I see her. I love her like my own mom but god it's time to cut the cord and let ex suffer his own consequences for once in his life.

Sorry about the vent. Thanks for your advice on the letter. It's better than the arguement that usually ensues on the phone.

Brenda
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 8:20am
And it also never hurts to include a copy of the agreement with a letter.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 2:29pm
I agree with the other poster. There is a very simple solution for this... automatic deduction from his checks and direct deposited into my account.