My marriage fell apart in one month

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Registered: 03-27-2007
My marriage fell apart in one month
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Sun, 02-19-2012 - 12:43am

I've been married almost 14 years.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 02-19-2012 - 2:18am
Yeah, it's pretty obvious by your post that he's having an affair with her. The "were just friends" is the oldest line in the book of a cheating spouse. I'm so happy you said "I'll be fine" and don't seem to be falling apart over this. And yes reality can be ugly. Get a good lawyer who will assure that you get all the child support your entitled to. GOOD LUCK.
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Registered: 07-07-2008
Mon, 02-20-2012 - 9:09am
Unfortunately I had this happen to me as well...no kids for me, but same pain nonetheless...one of the key things I realized was that it only "seemed" like it fell apart so quickly, in reality my ex had been "checked out" long before b/c he was already seeing OW and planning a life with her all the while trying to make me believe we were "working it out"...that was really just so I wouldn't find out, go ballistic, and make his life difficult during the divorce...his plan didn't work and initially I got the friends routine too, except I had proof he had her in my house, in my bed when I confronted him...I, too, feel that you saying/knowing now that you will be okay is huge, b/c I can say I definitely didn't feel/know that right away...it was very difficult in the beginning... Now 8 years later, it's like a lifetime ago...I only wish I knew about this board then, definitely use it as a tool to help you get through! Just take it one day at a time...you aren't alone!