My poor mother!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2006
My poor mother!!!!
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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 12:09pm

I hate that she has to be stuck in the middle of this. H called me last night. I picked up the phone because I didn't want DD(5) asking why I didn't answer when daddy called if he left a message on the machine. The conversation when something like this:

H: Hi
Me: Hi
H: How are you?
Me: I'm fine.
...silence...
Me: What do you want? (Emotionless... not angry)
H: I guess you don't want to talk to me so I'm going to go.

He then hung up.

Today he called my mother and told her I blew up on him on the phone yesterday and he's coming up to the house. He said he asked me if the kids needed anything and I blew up at him. He didn't say anything to me!!! He should be there soon. I'm at work. I imagine he's going to grill her for information. My poor mother. I feel terrible. Why won't he stop??? I told him I wanted a divorce. Period. I'm not changing my mind. Why does he insist harrassing us (my parents and I) about it will make me change my mind???

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:42pm

Update... his conversation with mom was the same stuff but one thing he did say: "I'm tired of people telling me to get over it."

I'm hoping that means his family is telling him to get over it. For a while they were telling him I was just confused and unstable and to fight... that I'd get over it eventually. I'm curious how many people are encouraging him to STOP the madness.

(sigh) Sorry for the play by play, but this is tough. I'm sure you all know it helps just to talk it out sometimes.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-21-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 3:46pm
Hey thats ok this kind of stuff kind of naws and eats away at you. Makes our lives so full of junk that we cant have a normal day. I dont think my junk will end till he moves out.
Hang in there and do all the venting you need to!