My step mom

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Registered: 03-06-2005
My step mom
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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 12:31pm

As most of you know my step mom had a brain aneurism burst a week ago.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 12:42pm

I am so sorry for what you are going through, it's really hard to lose someone so suddenly.

I would suggest that you and your bf pack up and head out. He is your step-mom's husband right? Then he has say as to who's in the room, and who's not. Even if you don't want to cause any trouble you should still be there for your dad..

Illness and death bring out alot of meaness and cruelty in people, don't let their stubborness keep you from supporting your father.

Hugs and good luck vibes coming your way!!

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 12:50pm

They are not legally married... but they have been together for 5 years and Karen was my mom in many ways. So no, dad doesn't have much of a say. It sucks......but they never got the chance to get married ( finances mostly the reason, they were high school sweethearts and they met again 5 years ago )


Thank you for the advice and the hugs. I think your right.


It's so hard to believe.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 1:05pm
What does your father say? If he wants you there, I would go, be there for your dad but I would also avoid any family get togethers that you would not be welcome at. Just stick around and support your father at his home and stay away from her family as much as possible. If that his how they want it to be you should respect their wishes.

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 1:49pm

I'm so sorry it's turned out this way. Did they give you any idea of a timeline from disconnecting everything and her passing on? I'm just thinking that you will probably only be able to go for a limited amount of time, and your dad would probably appreciate you being there for the funeral if possible.

Keeping you & your family in my thoughts.

-sang

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 2:14pm

Thanks sang.


My dad called my SO's cell and left a message asking us not to come down. He said that they would bring her back here to Buffalo for the funeral.


I haven't had anyone pass away in my family since 1989. My uncle passed away a couple of years ago, but I didn't know him. I don't really know what to do.


Anyway, I will be here until I hear of plans. No one said how long it would be, I am guessing based on the Terri Schiavo matter, it will take a long time, a week or 2. They have been feeding her and hydrating her through IV's. I am sure that will be the cause unless her heart gives first.


I feel so sad. It's an uncontrolable sadness.


Thanks guys.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 2:47pm
So she is breathing on her own? If yes, then it is possible it will take some time. But keep in close contact with your Dad. So sorry to hear about your loss.
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Registered: 05-07-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 2:52pm

Hi Angelena,

Hugs to you, and you and your family are in my thoughts.

Take care,

Susie

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:03pm

idk if she is breathing on her own. It's tough to tell. They had the machines at 10 breaths per minute and she was taking 20. Im not sure what that means.....


Thank you for your thoughts and concerns.


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Registered: 12-16-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:42pm
my thoughts are with you and your family during this time
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 6:28pm
Angelena, I am so sorry. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda