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Registered: 10-04-2007
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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 9:32pm

To make a long story as short as possible, I got married on Nov.3 of this year and he walked out on me on Dec 1. I have a neurological condition that makes it hard for me to function and he blamed his leaving me on that but I had it before we got married. It kills me because HE KNEW and still wanted to marry me and then just picked up and left the state. He cleaned out that bank acct and I have no idea how I'm going to pay the bills.


Have you been there before? How'd you get through it all? What do I do with the marriage certificate? I havent sent it in yet but I can. If I send it in then we'll just have to get a divorce. I'm sure it wont bring him home. I could just rip it up and pretend it never happened, but I just dont know what to do.


Alexis

 

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Registered: 11-22-2001
In reply to: irish_grrl76
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 9:41pm

That is terrible. I'm so sorry you are going through this. You need to contact an atty. You might be able to just get the marriage annuled. I dont know those rules, but an atty might be able to counsel you (or a Priest?).


First thing in the morning, I would call an atty and schedule an appt. The initial consultation is usually free.


What a coward he is. I know this doesnt help now, but down the road you will realize how lucky you are that he did this now vs 10 yrs from now.


Is there any chance he is having an affair? Have you called his family?


I'm so sorry. HUGE hugs to you.......Hang in there. Count your blessings and know that you are strong enough to get through this....


deb

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Registered: 07-07-2007
In reply to: irish_grrl76
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 9:48pm

I am so sorry to hear this.

I would definitely look into getting the marriage annulled. I believe you have to act quickly on this, though, but you definitely should. You need someone who will be there through thick and thin, and it appears this man simply doesn't have what it takes.

Somewhere out there is a wonderful man who will love every part of you. Don't get me wrong--I'm not saying feeding you another "fish in the sea" line here. I just want you to know that you are worthy of true love. My heart goes out to you.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
In reply to: irish_grrl76
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:41pm

Thanks for your responses. I know that there is no chance in the world that he was having an affair. I have talked to his family. In fact, his sister warned me when we started dating that he has a history of just up and leaving ppl. Of course, I never believed he'd do it to ME, but then again, no one does.


We can't have the marriage annulled. We're in Texas and Texas takes marriage seriously, but, on the other hand, if I dont turn the certificate in then we're not married. Part of me wants to send it in, just for spite I guess, to make him acknowledge the fact that we really were married, but I know that in the end, I won't do that. It would be a lil childish on my part. I am just hurt and that's all it comes down to.


Alexis

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: irish_grrl76
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 9:41pm

I'm with Debs.... call an attorney for a consultation and find out what your rights are.


Good luck!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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