need advice on how to get him to go..
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need advice on how to get him to go..
| Fri, 10-12-2007 - 8:56pm |
I am toying with the idea of breaking off my long relationship with my live in boyfriend. We do have children. I am prepared for the challenge but my concern is this. How do I present that I want out of the relationship and that I want him out of my house? (Yes, I own the house, it is in my name and we never married) My other fear is what will happen after I tell him, I don't want him to take what isn't his or damage my house which I think may happen. Do I give him notice or just tell him he has to leave the same day? Weird that I should be worrying about this rather than the demise of our relationship huh? There just isn't anything left to save.

Sadmom,
You'd be wise to contact an attorney regarding your BF's rights regarding visitation and/or child support obligations before parting ways. These questions are important and you need information regardless of your living arrangements.
That said, if you are fearful of a violent reaction to your asking your BF to leave, you can contact the police and ask if an officer can be present when you ask your BF to leave the premises. You might be able to pack up his belongings ahead of time and be ready to meet him at the door before he comes inside the house. That way, he can get his things without having to come into the house.
It may also be wise to be prepared to separate your finances including bank accounts, credit cards, insurance, and other items that may have both your names on them. I'd also suggest you may need to immediately change your locks and secure the garage or car before he is notified.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020