need advice on husband's girlfriend..separated
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|Sun, 01-26-2014 - 12:04am|
My husband (only separated) moved out 9 months ago. We are intending to divorce, but are working out financial issues before filing. He told me when he said he wanted to proceed with divorce that he had been dating. I knew from facebook that he was also. I have accepted that he has moved on. I have seen him in public with her. I don't think it's morally right, but I can't control that. We have 2 children. One saw him with her by accident. Then the other told me that dad's "friend" was at his house when he had the kids. I really don't want the kids to be around her. Their time with dad is their time... not date time for him. Plus I think it sends the wrong message as to what is acceptable to the kids. They know we aren't divorced. I don't really want to say anything to him because I don't want to ruffle feathers when we are going into the divorce on good terms. I am the main bread winner and have the most to lose if there is an arguement. I don't want to tell the kids that it is wrong because #1 the younger one will parrot back what I say and #2 I don't want to say negative things about their dad to them. But I don't want them to grow up thinking that it is ok to date and whatever else while you are still bound to another by religion and legal marriage.