need advice--I'm going crazy here!!
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| Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:20pm |
Hi all, I am new to this board and really need some advice. First of all, my husband and I separated last September after three years of marriage. He has done absolutely nothing(and I mean nothing) to help out with getting the divorce accomplished, even though he wants it as much as I do. I have been busy with college, and only this summer have had some time to try to do the paperwork myself(couldn't afford a lawyer). I just filed a little less than two months ago, and I'm waiting til the 60 day waiting period is over to finally get this finalized.
Here's the thing.....my ex-husband has been a complete jerk to me since I left him. I, wanting to be considerate and feeling guilty for making him miserable, have bent over backwards to try to make this as smooth and painless for him as possible. When he asked me to move my stuff, I moved it...when he told me I needed to get my car insurance out of his name, I did it right away. I never asked for ANYTHING from him, just took what was mine, left a lot of things that were mine because he said he wanted them, I have been doing the paperwork myself and paying for all the divorce expenses(almost $500 so far), I have been off his health insurance for quite some time, we are

Yes about the lawyer thing it is worth it, just interview your lawyer good. My lawyer sucked. Sorry to use such a strong word but she did. I am looking for another one to go back on and recover somethings my lawyer wouldn't even touch.
Good Luck!!
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The only way I have been able to tell if a lawyer is good (and in this case, a lawyer is necessary) is by referral.
On another note, let me tell you, Marie, I checked out your website. You are incredibly talented. If you need something positive to focus on as you navigate the choppy waters of divorce, focus on that. You have such a bright future ahead of you! Best wishes to you.
thanks everyone who replied.
Could use some more advice on this....
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I am going to go ahead and be the dissenting opinion here. I did not use a lawyer in my divorce. I did want to wring my XHs neck b/c he was making it impossible to get anything done. I did lose all of the spare time for several months. But in the end, I got a bunch of what I wanted in the divorce. And I got out.
In my experience, a lot of the stuff that seemed so important then turned out to be very unimportant in the long run. I've never been sorry that I didn't "fight" b/c our divorce cost us $550. Even tho I feel like I was overly generous with him, a couple of lawyers going at it for a while would have cost so much more that what I gave him. And he thinks he got a great deal.
If you don't have kids this is a great way to go - you've already shown that you are on top of things. And every time that you are tempted to strangle him for being difficult, think of all of the $$ that you are not spending and grit your teeth. You have your whole life and a bright future ahead of you!
GL,
~Kristi
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Good for you! And come here to rant if you need to. They can be sooo aggrivating at times.
Hugs!
~Kristi