Need advise please

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Registered: 10-08-2007
Need advise please
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 11:08am

My husband and I are pretty much separated although not legally. He started seeing someone else a little over a year ago and this past Dec. they had a baby together. We are still living together but only b/c I really don't have anyone else to stay with. I have a son also. I'm not close to my family at all and although am fairly close to his I don't want to have to count on them during this situation. I just found out his 'girlfriend' is very possibly pregnant again!!! I'm already taking anti-depressants to get thru the day the way it is and I can't afford to see a therapist which I know would also help me deal with this. I want out but don't know how. We only have one car (can't afford two right now) and I'm currently a stay at home mom. I can't afford child care so I can work and I can't ask him to watch my son. My son is 5 and will be starting Kindergarten this fall and I plan to work then. He will be in school then and I can always get him involved in the Y till I'm done working.

I don't know what went wrong. I loved him and when we got married I meant every word of our vows! This past year I have went from loving him completely to I swear hating him!!

I want to get out now. Our lease for this apt. is up the end of April and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions, tips, thoughts anything is welcomed! Thanks.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 3:10pm

Tammy,


You need information and a plan.


First, I'd encourage you to look up Legal Aid in the blue pages of your telephone book under "United States" government. You may qualify for free legal aid or reduced-cost legal assistance. Only they can tell you whether you do or not. If you do qualify for legal assistance, get busy making a list of your legal questions, i.e. support questions, custody/visitation, debts, assets and other things that will determine whether you be able to receive any support or profit from the sale of joint assets.


Second, get your documents together: rental agreement, credit card bills, utilities, loans, insurance policies, you and your child's

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 10-08-2007
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 5:04pm
Thank you so much. This is all very overwhelming! And it's hard to think straight sometimes when you are so upset and hurt. Thanks again.