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| Wed, 12-13-2006 - 2:26pm |
My exhusband lives with his girlfriend. They just bought a $500,000 house and she just bought a new BMW. He is giving me a hard time about some medical bills for our kiddos. His girlfriend has worked for him before our divorce. She did some office work and ran some machinery. I think he is funneling money through her. When we got divorced he swore they were not having a relationship. In going over the books for his buisness at the time of the divorce he had bonused her large sums of money $5,000 a pop. What do you all think about this? Do you think I should tell the lawyer? Can we look into her finances if my exhusband is her only source of income?

I can't help with the legal side, but... you have all my sympathy!! you must be green - with anger and rage!!
He probably is lying, and cheating, and hiding money - and it is an interesting idea to see if she is working or not. However:
- the house is surely on a large morgage
- bonuses of 5000.- do not account for a BMW (or at least it is harder to prove they are correlated, unless the bonuses are many, many)
I would definitely ask the lawyer to see if there are any grounds to re-visit alimony/child support. That can be done if his income is substancially increased since the court's decision (and that can be done also if his new income is honest - if he just started earning more, the child support is calculated on his income NOW, not on his historical one).
Lots of hugs, and try to keep a smile up...
There was a thread that indicated what you need is a forensic accountant. This is someone who can go and dig deep to find out just what your ex is doing with that money.
The thread is here http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsmartdivor&msg=17077.3&ctx=0
I also went and googled for some info and what I found is this site which is where you can find listings and get general info about forensic accountants.
http://www.fasna.org/
I know nothing about this, but hoped that the last link might at least point you in the right direction. You may also want to talk to your lawyer and see if he/she already has a forensic accountant that they work with.
Good luck with this. I know it can be frustrating. I have some issues with my ex with him not being forthcoming with his earnings, but definitely not in the amounts you seem to be talking about.