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| Thu, 06-05-2008 - 9:54pm |
I want a divorce from my husband, but having never gone through this kind of thing before, I have a load of questions. First off, I want to ask him to move out but he has no job and no place to go. So right there I'm sort of stuck because I feel guilty because it's mainly me that wants a divorce. He refuses to see how incompatible we are. He's perfectly happy living as roommates I guess. Not that my asking for a divorce will come as a surprise; it came up last year and even after a lot of counseling and soul-searching, I know splitting up is the best course of action. So how do I go about having that conversation in this situation? How do I say, "Yeah, I know you have no money, no job and nobody who will take you in, but I want you to move out."
I'm earning a 6 figure income, and while I don't think he'll demand alimony or anything like that, I'm not sure how to go about protecting myself financially. I want to keep the house -- I'm the only one who could afford it and plus I have a teenager who is still in school. With the market the way it is now, there's no way I could sell the house. What are the chances I wouldn't be forced to sell it by a divorce judge? I suppose I will if I have to, although I'd want to live here without him while I wait for it to be sold.
I have lots of other questions (splitting up debt, etc) but this is a good start.

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I am thinking of the money it's costing me to get divorced and it really burns me up.
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Sorry this is so late, and I don't know what the laws are in your state, so you may want to check with a lawyer on the advice I am about to give.
If you can get the husband to move out and hopefully, he'll go get another job to support himself. The longer he is supporting himself, the less you will have to pay. I know someone my husband works with going through a divorce where his wife was a SAHM for their entire marriage. She decided that she was bored with the marriage and wanted to be a movie start at 32 years old with bad teeth. She moved into her parents house and then into her own apartment after her parents became the guarantor. She did eventually did get a job, and his lawyer suggested waiting to file until she has been supporting herself for awhile and they can prove it in court.
I guess it comes down to how quickly do you want this to end, or are you patient enough to pay less in the long run??
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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