Need to move away from it all...

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Need to move away from it all...
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 2:59pm

Hi all. Its been almost 10 years since my husband of (now 31 years) decided to take off for greener pastures. My kids at the time were 19 and 21. I'm now in my mid 50's. We're still married (legally) and I'm still in the house. He's been paying the mortgage and most of the bills all this time. Things seem to have worked this way because I still have a roof over my head and he's still paying most of the bills. I've moved on to a point - got myself a full time job and no longer think of him as part of my family, but I haven't been able to date

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 3:35pm

I think the first step to you moving on is for you to get divorced so you can end your ties to your DH.

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 3:57pm
I know you are right in a lot of what you said, but as far as a divorce....he was the one who kept hounding me for a divorce for the first several years we were separated. I told him I wouldn't give him one. Then one day, I gave in and went to a lawyer. I had a bunch of papers put together that he had to fill out to get the divorce going. I called him and told him I'd leave the papers in the mail box for him to pick up, fill out, and drop back off to me so that I could get the ball rolling.