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| Wed, 03-02-2005 - 10:30pm |
Hi All !
I have a situation to deal with. I know what I want but I want to do what's right.
Ex just let me know on sunday that his church is doing an Easter Presentation. He wants dd's to be involved in this play. They both enjoy doing this kind of thing however, this will cut into my time with them greatly.
Apparently it will consist of 10 shows. Thurs, Fri., Sat.& Sun. 2 weeks in a row. We alternate our Wed. since we are in the same school dist.He gets them Sun. morning at 10:30 AM until either wed. or thurs. it depends on the week. I get them either Wed.or Thurs. depending on the week until 10:30 AM Sun. The other thing going on is that they already have girl scout commitments for some of this time and I am also taking them to see Finding Nemo on Ice one of the presentation nights.
Personally I think this doesn't give them enough down time. They already come from ex's house tired all the time. He often doesn't get them to bed early. I just really don't have a good feeling about this. I talked to him to express my concernes over this and he tells me that I can make the most of this by supporting dd's in participating in the program.
The practice go until 9:00 PM during the week then there is Sat practice from 8:00 AM to noon. On the nights of the programs I don't even know when it starts or how long it is. Both girls do well in school but I think this would be more stressful for them and not as meaningful for them as he pushes it to be.( He tends to put religion on a higher pedestal then most. He does it to an unhealthy extent.) I'm not against religion. I was a Sunday school teacher for 6 years. I also still attend church. I'm against using religion as a sorce to get ones way.
I've talked to dd's and told them how I feel and that maybe they could do some of the shows but definately not all of them.They were given parts that they don't have any lines and if they missed it wouldn't effect the program. I just wish he wopuld't make these commitments without asking me in advance. He even told 8yo dd that I said they could be in the play. What I told him was to see if they could haves parts that they didn't have to be commited to. I also told him to give me detailed information about the whole thing before I made a final decision. Still haven't gotten anything except him telling me there is practice tomorrow night.
Anyway , your thoughts on this subject would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
K:)

This is one of those darned if you do, darned if you don't situations. If the girls have already committed to this within themselves, I don't think that I would be able to not let them follow through. However, in the future, I would make sure that when x asks if the girls can participate in something, you should investigate before saying ANYTHING to him other than "NO." You can always change your mind after saying "no." You can rarely change it after saying "yes."
Steph