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Need support through this rough spot
| Thu, 09-07-2006 - 1:34pm |
So my husband and I havebeen together for 11 years. We have had a volatile relationship for awhile maybe 2-3 years. We have three kids 10,9,6. I left a few weeks ago but then like a moron I came back because I fell for the whole " I am changed" bit. He has a drinking problem that he doesn't see as a problem and also does MJ occassionally.He also has trust issues with me that are totally untrue. I am fed up with all of it. He is also selfish he seems to preferr being alone.I always have the kids and he stays home. Now I am ready to leave permanently and he is pulling his stuff again and "lets try together, he doesn't want to be without us, he asks how can I put my kids throught divorce" He is making me feel like the bad guy! How dare him say that I didn't try. However, it is affecting me. I feel like I am second guessing myself and I feel sorry for him. Please help me be strong in making this move permanent! I don't want to pull my kids back and forth.

You wrote: Now I am ready to leave permanently and he is pulling his stuff again and "lets try together, he doesn't want to be without us, he asks how can I put my kids throught divorce" He is making me feel like the bad guy! How dare him say that I didn't try. However, it is affecting me. I feel like I am second guessing myself and I feel sorry for him. Please help me be strong in making this move permanent!
I am struggling with these exact same feelings. It is so hard to stay strong. My H lays the blame on me and I feel so guilty. He won't take responsibility for his failure as a husband. I'm looking forward to hear what others say in how to deal with this.
Kelly
I can totally, 100% relate to your post. For the better part of 12 years, my ex did everything in his power to make our marriage difficult. From spending money excessively, making big purchases without consulting me, rarely coming home, putting his friends first, staying out until all hours, having daily lunches with his female "friends," making empty promises, leaving me to do all the housework, yardwork, and child care while working full-time and more,