New 1/2 sib name
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| Sun, 10-15-2006 - 12:40pm |
XH and I were together for almost 17 years (of that only 3 years married) we have wonderful dd(6yr). XH and I separated when she was 4yr and while we were separated he had a child that he kept from me and DD until the day the baby was born and without telling me first just took 4yr dd to meet new sister. But I had to be the one to explain how daddy gave her a sister.
Well since then I have divorced the ^%$#! and XH and I do not talk for everal reasons. Ok so XH is still with this manchick and they just had another baby (by the way off our tax dollars when they both are more than able to work).
Well my XH is the 3rd generation so when our DD was born we named her a part of his name to kind of carry on the tradition. (EXAMPLE: Kenneth Jones III and then the DD would be Kenna Jones).
Well XH first child with GF has her last name but now they had a son and gave him XH name being the 4th generation.
I do NOT care how many geneartions he has HOWEVER when my DD told me that SOMEONE told her that girls CANNOT be named after their dad and that her mom made a mistake.
I asked a 6yr to explain to me and she said "I wasn't supposed to be named after my dad only boys can be named after their dads."
I didn't ask her who told her this as mad as hell that I was I said the following:
"You aren't named after your dad. Your dad has NOTHING to do with your name. Just like mom you were named after your GRANDPA (because I was)." I said "so your brother can be named after your dad all he wants but you are named after your grandpa."
DD said "OHHH so me and you are the same and it is OK to be our names right?"
I said "yes it is alright."
Why would anyone tell a child this? Whoever said it. But now my DD is confused because she says "mom how come my sister name is SMITH but my brother and me are JONES?"
My response is "you will have to ask your dad that."
Now I am just wondering if he will have to pay the STATE back since he is on the birth certificate. Lord knows he doesn't pay for our DD.
