New and need advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2005
New and need advice
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 12:28pm

OK I don't really know if this is the place for me to be but it says surviving divorce so here goes. I am in a relationship with a man in the middle of a divorce. I have been with him for a long time now and the divorce is just starting because of our states legal waiting period. It is so hard being in this relationship sometimes. There is almost no help out there for people like me. I love him and we have been together for a long time, well for me anyway. I have to deal with feelings from his side as well as my own, and then deal with all the things that his soon to be ex wife is putting him and us through. Basically i ahve to be the whole support system and there is no one supporting me. I have found one book that I have read and that has helped. It is becoming a difficult divorce because of the wife. None of my friiends are in this situation and can't relate. If anyone can help I would appreciate it.

Thanks
OP

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 2:07pm

opietoad....


The problem is......your S.O. is caught between his soon-to-be EX and YOU!

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:01pm

I agree pianoguy, as long as there are unresolved issues with the ex there will be unresolved issues with the new relationship too.


My advice is to steer clear for a bit. Help when asked, but stay out of it otherwise.


Hugs to you and good luck!


Angelena

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 10:11am

Hello... and welcome!


I think that HE needs to pick on another good buddy friend (or counselor)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-13-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:17pm

I have a question... Did you come between his wife and their marriage. Or did he meet you AFTER he was seperated? Because I would question whether or not you would want to be with the man who cheated on his wife. You know the old saying,.... Once a cheater....

Just wondering.... Otherwise, I agree with putting some space and time between the two of you. Has he agreed to marry you? I mean, most divorcees (men and women) rarely want to jump back into a marriage when they just got out of one.

Hope it goes well!

~K

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