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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 2:58pm

Hi, I just thought I'd introduce myself and explain a little about my situation. My name is Tashera, I'm 21 years old and had been married for a little over a year. I'm so lost that I don't know which is up and which is down right now. My husband, Gary (29) and I have a little girl who will be 2 in July. So that's a little background. We have/were together for 3 years.

On April 2oth he found an old friend/girlfriend on MySpace. They started talking and what not. She had given him her number and he called her and was catching up with her on Monday and tuesday the 21st and 22nd. On the 23rd she went and applied at where he works. She got the job and started on the 24th. On the 24th my husband, didn't call on his lunch break as usual. He came home and I asked him about it, he said that he forget his money to be able to call. He then tells me that he is going to go with her to get a car. That was it I lost it. He had already been talking to her all hours of the night and got her a job, then he wanted to go with her to get a car?!?!?! I told him that we might not be here when he got back. We (my daughter and I) went to my cousins for a few hours. Expecting him to be home when we got back I figured we would talk and figure things out as to what we wanted to do. But he didn't come home that night. He came in at 6 am on the 25th and dropped off the debit card and insurance cards. At that time I didn't even know what was going between us. He came back at 4pm and got some of his clothes. Saying that he didn't love me anymore.

Where I'm lost is, he's been living with the ex g/f Kelly, and yet he still tells me that he loves me and that he wants to work things out but he isn't ready to come home. Yes him and her do have a relationship, apparently he's already engaged?!?!?! But he says he doesn't love her. I'm at a loss as to what to do anymore I'm so confused and lost. Any advice would help. And don't just say move on, that's easy to say, but I do love him and still want a family with him and our daughter, you might be able to offer how I could move on.... I don't know. but thanks for listening to me rant.....

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Registered: 05-07-2008
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 3:06pm

I'm new here myself, and don't have any advice but didn't want to read your post and not respond.


I'm sorry that he is treating you that way.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:05pm

Your DH sounds like he's gone a little crazy.

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:09pm

Pretty crazy situation.


I could be wrong but it sounds to me like he wants to keep you in the wings just in case it doesn't work out with the girl he is seeing.