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| Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:14am |
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Edited 9/27/2005 10:28 am ET ET by wildflower0904
Edited 9/27/2005 10:28 am ET ET by wildflower0904

Hey There,
I know what you are going through. However the decision is up to you. You need to ask yourself if you want to continue this relationship or not. What are your pros and cons?
Is he willing to try counseling? Somehow it needs to be put forth in his face that things must change or your going to lose it and he'll lose you. Find out how much you and your family mean to him.
I would think if he seriously wants to keep his family together , then he shouldn't have a problem with helping to fix it.It may take a trial seperation to get him to wake up. You really have to gather the strength to confront him.
I know the local shelter in my area did an article in the paper about different forms of abuse. Verbal abuse is way more common than physical and can sometimes be more damaging. Please know this ,I'm NOT disregarding physical abuse. Verbal abuse just gets disregarded more because there isn't much to show it on the outside. No matter what kind it's all abuse.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Am I afraid of going against my husband?
2. Am I afraid to go out with friends because I'll get accused of something?
3. Do I feel that I must rush home if I go out to the store?
4. Do I feel like I'm walking on eggshells at home?
These are just some examples they gave. If you said yes to any of these, then you are abused. It's not exceptable no matter what. If you think there is a chance to fix it , then please do. If you are to afraid of what he/she might say or do , then it might be to late. Call a local womens shelter. They have many vollenteers available to answer all your questions and help point you in the right direction.
Hope this was of some help to you.
K:)