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|Tue, 01-17-2012 - 12:12pm|
I'm 27 and have been married for almost 9 years. My husband and I have been together for 12 years, since I was 15, he was 17. We have 3 children together. We got married when I was just 18. We started having problems just a year after being married and I was pregnant with our second child and I always felt guilty about leaving him. I havent been truly happy for quite some time. He chooses to not have friends and doesnt really talk to his family. He always tells me I'm his life and that he doesnt need anyone else. I do not think we are good as a couple. We always argue about stuff and even when we go out to dinner we have absolutely nothing to say to eachother. Anytime we do talk is about the kids. We really do not have any of the same interests.I think one of the main reasons we are still together is because we are comfortable because we have been together for so long. My husband's mother thinks we have to stay together and work it out becasue we have kids together and now my husband is saying that he believes the kids should have both parents in the house. I'm currently a SAHM but I want to be able to do my own things and have my own life. Bottom line is neither one of us really love eachother the way we used too but he won't admit it. He makes me look bad and feel guilty because I have told him we are not good as a couple anymore. He is not the best husband, often ignoring me for video games or sleeping. I know I do not love him in that way anymore but I feel so guilty because he is the father of my children and I dont want to make things bad for them.