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| Mon, 04-03-2006 - 9:59pm |
I don't know what other to say than wow. I took my husband to Vegas this past weekend for his 40th birthday and I found out today, the day before we left there was a charge to a "couples only" bar on his debit card. This bar apparently requires a male/female couple only to enter...and it wasn't me that went. He denies going there and said he renewed his membership thinking I would take him there to kick our weekend off. (I've wanted to divorce him for nearly five years). He says he got a membership online yet there are no rate plans that match the cost and the weekend of the charge I just happened to be dropping our dog off at my mom's to watch while we were out of town.
I'm in such disbelief. I want to believe he wouldn't do something like that but he has a history of cheating with his ex-wives which I now know is a fact. He's threatening to file for divorce tomorrow and serve me with a 24 hour vacate notice and continues denying he went out. (we have separate bank accounts yet I have access to his online which he doesn't know about). I haven't cried and am not even surprised. How weird is that???
At this point, I just have to laugh.

I'm sure you can sense that his explanation doesn't ring true. You mentioned you've wanted to get a divorce for several years now. It sounds like it's time to explore moving forward with that. Have you been to counseling? Or seen an attorney? I would suggest doing both.
You sound like you're doing OK. Please feel free to vent. Even if you don't feel very emotional right now, you may feel the sting at a later date.
What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
I can't tell you how many times my then-husband said, "I thought you'd be upset... I thought you'd cry...."
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~