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| Sat, 05-10-2008 - 7:32pm |
I am new here. I have been reading some of your post and they seems as though you had a window in to my life. Here is my story. I have been married for 11 yrs(only a couple of those we great ones.)I did however end up with 3 wonderful boys and that I am thankful for. They are my life and why I have not totally lost it. I found out 7yrs ago that he had been cheating on me(2 days after our anniversary which he did not spend with me because he was working ya right)Well shortly after that I found out that I was pg with number 3 so I tried to make things work. Only the staying out all hours of the night and not spending time with the family continued. If I said anything than I was being ungreatful because he was working to support our family(which we never seen any of)In January of this year the boys and I moved out and got a house of our own in a different town. He still see the boys but has no wants to seek counseling or therapy. Last night the decission was made to compltely file for DIVORE. Part of me should be happy to move on and have a Happy life with my boys

Goddess,
It is a time that you WILL have different feelings one day to the next (or even minute to minute).
Threesons,
Hi. Welcome to the board. I hope you find helpful advice and support here.
I would echo the others here and tell you: You are not a "failure" as a wife.
Your husband seems to believe you're responsible for his happiness. You're not! He is!
So he goes and finds someone else. He'll discover he won't be any happier with that person than he was with you. Why? Because he's looking for someone else to make him happy.
I truly understand your pain and disappointment in his actions. When a spouse leaves its a huge rejection. We all question our self-worth and wonder what we could have/should have done to make the other person stay. Truth is - we can only make ourselves happy.
I encourage you to find a support group and a counselor to help you sort through your feelings. This is a tough decision no matter how
CL-Wisdomtooth2020