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Registered: 07-08-2007
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Sun, 07-08-2007 - 11:21pm

Hi Everyone.

My name is Maggie & my husband told me that he wanted a divorce mid-april. When he told me this, my heart just sank. I never thought in a million years that I would ever be going through a divorce, yet here I am.

I packed my bags & took my son (he is 20 months btw), and moved to Indiana & we are now living with my parents. I have had some good days & bad days... I will get through this some how. I have too... for my sons sake. My divorce will be final in september.

I am hoping that I can get some great advice & support, as well as offer great advice & support to you all as well.

((hugs))

*Maggie*
*soon to be single*

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Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: single_mommy2t
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 6:36am
Hi Maggie. I'm so sorry you are in the same situation as many of us here. You will get through this. Somehow we do. Try to do some things for yourself, it will help. I'm not sure how long the grieving takes, as I'm still going through it. It has been a month, and I feel like I'm on a roller coaster 24/7. Good luck to you. Hugs.
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Registered: 07-11-2007
In reply to: single_mommy2t
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 2:10pm

Hi Maggie,

I just joined this site today...I've been separated for three months now, and my divorce will also be final in September. (No kids though.) I imagine that the length of time before it starts to feel "easier" is different for everyone. For me, I found that before I moved out was actually harder than once I was actually moved out and living on my own (which I guess proved that our separation/divorce really was the right thing for both of us, which I never would have believed when my STBX "dropped the bomb" on me in February.) Although I'll NEVER thank him for having the nerve to "call it" and be the one to raise the topic of divorce, I see now that I'm appreciative he finally had the strength to initiate it...however hard it has been (will be)...I see that it's for the best (the light at the end of the tunnel..any other cliche applicable here). It is hard, no one's disputing that. However, life goes on, and I believe if we choose to try and see the positive in each new day...you'll find it. Big hugs, good luck to you (and us all!)

Amy