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| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 8:00am |
I'm new here. My husband and I have 5 children and been married 10 years. We've had many problems throughout the years. He has had a porn addiction through our whole relationship and has been terrible with money and caused us to have to go through bankruptcy and we are in preforclosure now because he was late on the mortgage. Our sex life is one sided, he doesn't initiate it and I don't get anything from it. In our arguments, I feel like I'm on a merry go round, up and down and round and round, but not getting anywhere. I cheated on him last year and I owned up to that, told him about it a couple weeks after it happened. He's been dealing with it and he was hurt, obviously. I'm tired of all the fighting, I'm tired of going round and round with nothing to show for it. I love my kids deeply and I'm glad I have them. I think separation is the answer for right now. He of course is against it. But from what I know in this life, you live with what you put up with. I'm tired of putting up with his distance, I'm tired of putting up with his lack of responsibility, I'm tired of being ignored. I have always been the one on my knees praying for this marriage, pushing for counseling, read all the self help/marriage books to try to help our marriage and I feel like it has always fallen on deaf ears. He's not a bad man, he loves his kids and he works, but sometimes that's not always enough.
I am a stay at home mom. Are there any programs out there to help me with housing, daycare, all that kind of stuff, even though I'm still legally married?
Thanks so much!
Edited 2/13/2007 8:04 am ET by glamfatale
