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| Wed, 01-10-2007 - 1:17pm |
Hello Everyone-
As I sit her and write the tears are streaming down my face. My husband of 7 years told me Sunday that he wanted a divorce. What a blow! I figured as all relationships we were just having a "down" moment... little did I know. He proceeded to tell me that he wasn't happy and had not been for a while. That he didn't love me "in that way" and that he thought there was someone better suited for him out there. Is there another woman? I don't know but there weren't classical signs of it. To give a bit of history, he is military (special forces) and he deployed a lot including one 16 month stint. I never cheated, was supportive, and kept everything going. I feel like the last 7 years have all been a fascade, wasted time. I am numb, sad, devistated. Up until this epiphany of his, he had wanted to have a child, I am glad it didn't happen. I don't know what to do now, what the next step is. He took a bag of his stuff and said he would be back later this week for the rest. I am worried about how I will react when I come home to an empty house. I would sincerely appreciate any words of advise or wisdom - I need all the support I can get :(
As I sit her and write the tears are streaming down my face. My husband of 7 years told me Sunday that he wanted a divorce. What a blow! I figured as all relationships we were just having a "down" moment... little did I know. He proceeded to tell me that he wasn't happy and had not been for a while. That he didn't love me "in that way" and that he thought there was someone better suited for him out there. Is there another woman? I don't know but there weren't classical signs of it. To give a bit of history, he is military (special forces) and he deployed a lot including one 16 month stint. I never cheated, was supportive, and kept everything going. I feel like the last 7 years have all been a fascade, wasted time. I am numb, sad, devistated. Up until this epiphany of his, he had wanted to have a child, I am glad it didn't happen. I don't know what to do now, what the next step is. He took a bag of his stuff and said he would be back later this week for the rest. I am worried about how I will react when I come home to an empty house. I would sincerely appreciate any words of advise or wisdom - I need all the support I can get :(

Try to hang on and keep posting and vent it all on the board! there are some great people here who have wonderful words of wisdom!! It will be ok! yes be glad you didnt have a child. ((HUGS))
Hpsredwood,
I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. Rejection is very difficult to deal with especially when its dropped in
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Hi hps...
I'm so sorry that you find yourself in this place, but I'm glad if you're in this place, that you've found this board. As I'm sure you'll discover, this board is full of support, so find a comfy seat, put your feet up and relax here... vent here... gain knowledge and strength here...
Like the cl said, people who leave the relationship the way your h did often have been dealing with it for a while and are often in a different place as far as the grieving goes. Give yourself the time to feel what you're feeling... but at the same time, try your best to appear strong around him--I know its hard--I failed at this part miserably when my xh announced his intentions.
Gain knowledge--get copies of financial records, etc... seek counseling--it helps a great deal... and know that you're going to feel a lot of different things through this process... but we're here for you... pop in anytime and let us know if you're having a rough day or a good day...
*hugs*
Julie