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| Sun, 01-07-2007 - 2:50pm |
My husband and I are talking about getting a divorce. We have a son who isn't even two yet and I am seven months pregnant. It has been more my decision than his. I want it to go as smoothly as possible but am scared that if I don't get a lawyer or go to court I could get screwed in the long run. I have been the breadwinner in our family but just because I can afford the house and childcare etc doesn't mean I will be able to for 18 years. Who is to say what will happen down the road. So I am a little scared to agree to a small amount and in ten years something happens and I don't have the money and he won't pay it etc. He wants me to stay in FL which I said ok to if he is going to spend a lot of time with the kids. Thing is, my brother is my only family here. I hate to stay in FL for 18 years and have no family around for my sons to grow up around. I don't have a lot of family regardless but my parents live in TN and I have a lot of family in Michigan. I would like to live in TN near my parents as I have lived in FL my entire life. My husband's sister is 24 and is schizophrenic, bipolar, manic depressive etc. A little of everything. They live 45 mins from me and she lives with his parents. So it isn't like my kids can go stay over there and have a close family relationship with them. His sister still won't admin she is sick so she regularly has major blow ups and the kids can't be around that. So if I stay here it will just be us.
I am venting.. I just want to make sure the right things happen. My husband doesn't deserve not to have his kids in his life but we can fly roundtrip to TN for $120. It isn't that much money especially with the cost of living being cheaper there. He could pay less child support.
Anyone ever divorced without going to court? Anyone have similar issues or concerns?
Thanks in advance!!

Hi there.... you can't get divorced and not go to court.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~