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| Fri, 11-24-2006 - 2:40pm |
Hi, everyone. I'm new here, joining the ranks of the soon to be divorced. I've been married 7 years, 2 kids. We got married because of our dd and only knew each other 6 weeks before I got pregnant. It's been a struggle the whole time we've been married and I'm just tired of it all. I can't even say he's a great guy, but we just don't click. He's not that great of a guy at all. He's an ok dad, but he definitely has anger management issues. I think he'll make a great "weekend" dad. I've told him I want out, but that if he seriously wanted us to stay married, I'd go to couples counseling. He declined. I haven't moved out yet. I have nowhere to go. We're pretty new to the area and the only people I know are the people I work with. Since I've told him, he's gotten pretty hostile. I can't do anything right. Apparently, I refuse to take responsibility for anything. I have no idea what he was referring to when he said that. I asked and he wouldn't tell me. So that's my intro. I'm sure you'll be hearing lots from me in the next few months.
Allison

allison...
It's only Pianoguy's opinion, but RIGHT NOW is the time to leave!
If the man you're married to has "anger issues" around you...what happens when he decides to take them out on THE CHILDREN?
This is the time to 'touch base' with understanding friends and family members. It's amazing how many will 'come through for you' if you sincerely ask for help!
Do this for your children...as well as yourself!
Pianoguy
allison..
A PS from PG:
If you know that your Mom won't come through for you (or her grandchildren)...go to a different source!
Surely there are people whom you work with...are friends with...even attend CHURCH with...who would be willing to (at least temporarily) help you out?
It's amazing how many doors start to open the moment a person finds the courage to 'grab the handle and turn the knob!'
Good Luck!
Pianoguy
Thanks so much for your reply. Thankfully, I do have a job. It's not much, but it is a paycheck. I wish I had the money to just get my own place, but I don't. I just had two surgeries and was out of work for 8 weeks because of them. Besides that, stbx knows exactly how much I bring home and I haven't been able to stash any away. I've tried so many times to do that and each time, he finds out and then spends it. I'm planning to ask the people I work with tonight if they know of anybody that can help. I live in a huge city. I know there are resources out there, I just haven't found them yet.
Thanks!