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| Sun, 09-03-2006 - 10:25pm |
Hi all.
I was lurking on my other ivillage board and thought I would check if there was a board for what I'm going through. Let me explain. My husband of almost 2 years (we've been together a total of 6 1/2) tells me that he doesn't know if he loves me anymore. He wants to move out and stay with relatives for awhile to see how he feels about me. First of all I'm crushed, not that we haven't had hard times, but still not expecting this. Secondly we have a 10 month old son to deal with in all this. My husband is in a small rock band (just a hobby) and says that he doens't know if he can handle being home every night and having resposibilities to me. He wants to spend all his time with music and not with me. It seems like it's a chore for him to be at home with us. (btw, I'm 26 and he's 24) Anyway, he has been in and out for the last month or so, but he comes back cause I beg him (i know it's dumb) and I feel hopeful everytime he returns and promises me to try to work it out. But he doesn't. I know that I should never beg him to stay and love me, but I feel that I'm married and we have a baby so we NEED to work it out. He doesn't know how he feels. So what do I do? How do I have the strength to let him go? I can handle myself financially, but it's taking care of the baby day in and out alone that's hard (and of course the loneliness.)He works weekends and is off Mon and Tues. and those would be the days he takes the baby, so of course I'm home every other afternoon and weekend (after work) with all the responsibility. AHHHH! I'm so confused!
Thanks for letting me vent! Any support would be appreciated!
Kelli

Hi, just wanted to say welcome and that I'm sorry you're going through this. I am also new here, and I'm in a similar situation in that I've been married for 2 years and I have a 14 month old son. So I know how hard it is to take care of a baby on your own.
You deserve someone who will love you and your son and be there for you. You sound like you're very strong and level-headed, so I'm sure you'll make the right decisions for yourself and your son. It has helped me immensely in my situation to keep my focus on my son. As long as I'm thinking of him first, I know I'm making the right decisions.
Hang in there!
Laura
PS - I noticed on your profile that we have the same b-day!
Hi Kelli!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~