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Wed, 01-11-2006 - 12:50pm
Hi. I came across this board while looking for advice on divorce and single parenting. I thought maybe I could find some advice, or at least support, here. My stbx moved my family from our home town in July for a new job. I though this was great. We were a happy family and going to have a great experiance in a new town. We have 3 girls(9, 5, &3) and one son(7). I thought our life was good. He had been working out of town for about 6 months before our move and other then missing him terrible I thought our marriage was better then it had every been. I found out after we moved that he had become someone I don't even know anymore. He decided he wanted a divorce. His reason: he will always love me, he just can't be with me anymore. I don't think that's a good enough reason to end an 11 year relationship and distroy 5 peoples lives. We are still living together untill I can get the money to file and move. We will be moving 4 hours away to live near my mom so I can go back to school. Hopefully we can got this all done soon. I am so tired of being hurt. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of feeling like I've had my heart ripped out. I would do anything in the world to save our marriage if it ment it would be a good marriage. I know that is not going to happen though. I am so ready to move on with my kids.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: dcsmommy
Wed, 01-11-2006 - 6:27pm
Hello, Sorry you find yourself in need of this place. Welcome. You will find lots of advice and support so just jump right in. I know how you feel my ex walked out of our marriage 10 months ago. It's going to be painful for a while, but it does get better. I know what it feels like to want your family back. My ex was just through with me. It hurts a lot even today, but I am learning to live with myself and you will too. Good for you going back to school. That is an excellent move on your part. Also good that it's near your family. You will need them. You might want to look into some counseling to help you get over the rough parts. It can be really lonely, but we will survive. Come and visit us anytime. Hugs, Brenda
PS I have recently read an excellent book you may want to check out. Love must be tough by James Dobson. It is about trying to save your marriage, but it has some good advice for thoes of us that don't.


Edited 1/11/2006 6:29 pm ET by mebrenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: dcsmommy
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:06pm

Hi dcsmommy.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~