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| Sat, 07-23-2005 - 6:58pm |
My husband told me about a month ago that he wanted a divorce, but since I am not working and was 8 mos pregnant with our third child told him that after the baby was born I would get a job and move out with the kids. Well, for the first little while, he acted like the conversion didn't happen, but lately he goes out with his friends all night and act horribly to me and the two kids. They are young and don't understand why their dad doesn't want to spend ANY time with them. He is getting very mean to the kids, its one thing to do it to me, but to them, it breaks my heart.
Anyways, I don't have any family or friends here. We moved out of state about a year ago, and I don't have any close friends that I can even talk to about it. I just came across the board and wanted to vent a little. In a little over a month the new baby will be born, and I keep telling myself not too much longer and it will be better. At least no more tension in the house while he is home. Sorry to vent so much, but it seems like all I do is cry lately, and my four year old is very worried. Thanks for listening.
Rebecca

Hi Rebecca,
Welcome to the board. Congrats on your new baby-to-be! It sounds like you're going through a rough time, but stick around here, the people here know a lot, and are incredibly helpful.
<> I just wanted to say that try to keep your chin up for your kids. That's what I've heard time and time again-- not to let your kids know how upset you are (In my situation, I'm happy about our impending divorce, but every situation is different). Just try and rise above what your husband is doing, and take care.
Susie
Hugs, Brenda
Hi Rebecca.... I'm glad that you found us... and please, come here and vent any time.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Rebecca,
I don't have kids, so my situation is pretty different. But we do have a couple of other ladies (and men) here who have... they are great sources of inspiration and great people to vent to. In fact, you are not the only one who is currently expecting, and going through this terrible ordeal. One lady here had her baby a few weeks ago, and another is seven months... that's just off the top of my head...
It sounds like your STBX is a real winner. Treating his children in that way is awful. You mentionned that tension is less when he isn't around. Try to rejoice in that with your children, particularly the worried four-year old. Come here and vent, cry, and say whatever you want. We don't judge, and are here 24-7. Meanwhile, maybe try to get into some sort of support group (if that works for you), or save up some bucks and MOVE HOME, where you will have some support. Maybe you have some family that are due for a summer visit??? Can someone come and stay with you for some support? Just a thought.
Good luck.
Hugs.
L