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| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:25pm |
Hello, I have never posted here just read the messages but I'll
introduce myself. I am 39 years old. I have been married for 13 1/2
years, but we have been together for 16 years. We have 2 daughters
ages 14 and 7. This is the 2nd time in 4 years that I have filed for
divorce and didn't go thru with it. My husband has made my life a
living hell since the day we met. He drank heavy, hung out with his
friends, and verbally abused me for 14 years while I did all I could
to be a good mother to my girls. January 2004 he decided that he
wanted to start acting like a husband & father, but by then my
feelings had already changed for him, and I was planning on filing
for divorce when I got the money from my taxes later in the year. I
was so miserable in my marriage that I had an affair with my high
school sweetheart for about 8 months. this man made me feel the way
my husband never made me feel. My husband was always telling me that
nobody would ever love me the way he loved me, and I guess I believed
it, because he found out about the affair and I got scared and quit
seeing the guy. We had a nice home in Florida where I was raised, and
he talked me into selling the house and moving to another state where
we could start all over away from family and friends. We moved to
Tennessee where I am miserable, and now he can really control me
because I have no friends or family here. The divorce hasn't been
dropped. We separated in March 2005 and he moved back to Florida. I
stayed because my girls were still in school, and I was planning on
going back in June when they got out of school. We had our mediation
in May, and he talked me into taking him back so we are still in
Tennessee. We were separated for about 3 months and I felt like I
could breath again. I am so confused because I want to try to make it
on my own, but I am really afraid. I know that I will have no life
until I get away from this man.
introduce myself. I am 39 years old. I have been married for 13 1/2
years, but we have been together for 16 years. We have 2 daughters
ages 14 and 7. This is the 2nd time in 4 years that I have filed for
divorce and didn't go thru with it. My husband has made my life a
living hell since the day we met. He drank heavy, hung out with his
friends, and verbally abused me for 14 years while I did all I could
to be a good mother to my girls. January 2004 he decided that he
wanted to start acting like a husband & father, but by then my
feelings had already changed for him, and I was planning on filing
for divorce when I got the money from my taxes later in the year. I
was so miserable in my marriage that I had an affair with my high
school sweetheart for about 8 months. this man made me feel the way
my husband never made me feel. My husband was always telling me that
nobody would ever love me the way he loved me, and I guess I believed
it, because he found out about the affair and I got scared and quit
seeing the guy. We had a nice home in Florida where I was raised, and
he talked me into selling the house and moving to another state where
we could start all over away from family and friends. We moved to
Tennessee where I am miserable, and now he can really control me
because I have no friends or family here. The divorce hasn't been
dropped. We separated in March 2005 and he moved back to Florida. I
stayed because my girls were still in school, and I was planning on
going back in June when they got out of school. We had our mediation
in May, and he talked me into taking him back so we are still in
Tennessee. We were separated for about 3 months and I felt like I
could breath again. I am so confused because I want to try to make it
on my own, but I am really afraid. I know that I will have no life
until I get away from this man.

Hugs, Brenda