New Here - ? Abt Second Divorce w/ Kids

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Registered: 07-20-2004
New Here - ? Abt Second Divorce w/ Kids
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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 3:04pm

Hi girls -


I've been reading some of the posts, and let me commend you all on your strength and wisdom through such difficult circumstances.


A history -


I married my first husband at age 20 and we had a son.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 3:50pm

I would definitely see an attorney and a counselor and as someone who is (and has been) both, I can tell you to see more than one.

Susan

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Registered: 12-04-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 12:02pm
Hi! I just read your posting and however I have not been through what you have YET I am currently in the same situation. I also got married at 19 and had a son and a daughter. I was divorced almost 4 years later without batting an eyelash. I met my current husband very shortly after and he was my dream. I was in a state of mind where I did not want to be a single mom raising 2 kids so We took things very fast. He moved in, after 2 years we got married and we have now been married almost 6 years. Our son is now 4 and our marriage is an absolute nightmare. He is the most verbally abusive man I have ever known. He has severe anger and temper issues. When he is not angry, we do get along but like you I envision myself without him constantly. I am in a different frame of mind now and would kill to be alone and happy. My main concern is also the kids. My two older children do not see their real dad very often, but I wouldnt put iut past him to start up some old fights and take me to court if he knew we were having family problems. As for my current husband, He will fight me tooth and nail for custody just to spite me. I sometimes wonder if it worth staying and being miserable, rather than going threw the pain of a custody battle. Also, and this may sound silly, but I wonder what people (my family) will think when they hear that I am divorcing again for the second time. I am only 29 and I know I have alot of life to live, but if I continue to live it this way I will go crazy!! I am sorry I dont have the answers you are exactly looking for, but If anything else, there are people out there that know how you feel and I wish you lots of luck. This is a very hard decision to make but it makes it a little easier knowing you have some type of support. I hope everything works out for you!!