Do you know when or why you feel out of love with him? Once upon a time you loved each other enough to have two kids together. To me, that is worth fighting for. Love lost isn't lost for good. Perhaps you are burnt out? That happens to a lot of parents. Perhaps you are depressed? You should seek an individual counselor before you decide to leave for good. Really think about your motivation. Since your youngest is two, it seems at least 2 years and 9 months ago you felt something for him. These are all issues best dealt with by a professional. And, as far as the name calling, its seems not to be verbal abuse, but his anger. Verbal abuse is the choice to use demeaning foul language to control and hurt another person. It seems, since he has never done that before, its his hurt and anger and desperation that is causing the outburst. I admit, I was so angry when my X walked out on us. I was speechless for a long time, and now looking at him does make me sick. He is a shallow, hollow shell of a man and I cannot even look him in the eyes. Thats all the anger and hurt though. Someday I will be able to look at him without being nauseous, but not for a long time. I will forever hate him for running out on our family. Where there is a will, there is a way.
If you really want it over, it will end. If you wanted to save it, you could.
Well, asking you about how you were feeling.... and why... and what could get your relationship back on track would've been the MUCH better alternative to name calling (and getting drunk).
Do you know when or why you feel out of love with him?
Once upon a time you loved each other enough to have two kids together. To me, that is worth fighting for. Love lost isn't lost for good.
Perhaps you are burnt out? That happens to a lot of parents. Perhaps you are depressed?
You should seek an individual counselor before you decide to leave for good. Really think about your motivation. Since your youngest is two, it seems at least 2 years and 9 months ago you felt something for him.
These are all issues best dealt with by a professional.
And, as far as the name calling, its seems not to be verbal abuse, but his anger. Verbal abuse is the choice to use demeaning foul language to control and hurt another person. It seems, since he has never done that before, its his hurt and anger and desperation that is causing the outburst. I admit, I was so angry when my X walked out on us. I was speechless for a long time, and now looking at him does make me sick. He is a shallow, hollow shell of a man and I cannot even look him in the eyes. Thats all the anger and hurt though.
Someday I will be able to look at him without being nauseous, but not for a long time. I will forever hate him for running out on our family.
Where there is a will, there is a way.
If you really want it over, it will end. If you wanted to save it, you could.
Liz
Well, asking you about how you were feeling.... and why... and what could get your relationship back on track would've been the MUCH better alternative to name calling (and getting drunk).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Smile,
A couple of thoughts come to mind here.
1)Love is a choice.
2)Happiness isn't getting what you want, it's wanting what you get.
You can choose to love someone. Love ebbs and flows.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Amen on the spelling corrections!
Thank you -- it makes me crazy, too!
M
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~